"Sometimes it's the very people that no one imagines anything of who do the things no one can imagine." - Alan Turing
how many times have you wonder what you’d be like if it never happened?
Anonymous asked:
misandry-mermaid answered:
Coercive rape is pushing someone to have sex when they don’t express enthusiastic consent. My definition is that it’s essentially all forms of rape that don’t involve physical force and where the victim is conscious and sober.
It could mean someone not wanting sex and then the other person going “Please please please come on just this once come on I promise you’ll like it please please please” and so on until the person finally gives in just to make them stop.
It could mean someone with power over someone else pushing sex on them in a way that causes them to say yes out of fear of repercussion, like a boss with one of their workers, a prison guard with a prisoner, a professor with a student, a privileged person with an oppressed minority person, etc.
It could mean using guilt to coerce them into sex, things like “But you’ve said no the last 5 times I’ve asked” or “You just say no because you want to punish me” or “You wouldn’t say no if you really loved me” and so on.
It could mean that threats were made that made the person feel unsafe in saying “No” It could be something like “I’ll hurt you/your family/your friends/your kids if you don’t let me” or “If you want to stay with this company you will do this for me” or “If you don’t sleep with me I’ll send everyone those photos/tell everyone this private information about you/make your life a living hell” etc.
Basically, consensual sex requires authentic, enthusiastic consent from BOTH parties. Rape occurs when that consent is lacking from one person.
It is important to reiterate the message that a coerced “yes” is not a true yes. It is important because most rape does not involve physical force. A lot does, but not the majority. And a lot of rapists get away with their crimes because their victims were not physically forced to have sex, or because their victim eventually said yes (or stopped saying no) after pressure or threats or a fear of retaliation, and most people don’t see that as rape. But it is.
Coercive rape IS rape and it is a crime.
Long distance is not easy.
It is not easy to watch someone through a screen instead of your eyes tracing the curves of their face while they’re standing in front of you.
It’s not easy to have a bad day and not be able to see one of the only people that can make it better. For something exciting to happen and not be able to celebrate about it that night.
To not be able to have brunch on Sunday morning, or make dinner plans for when you get off work, or snuggle up together on the couch for one of the nights a tv show comes on that you both love.
Sometimes you miss them so much and it’s like you can’t get relief from it. Sure, you plan times to see each other but some nights are bad and you need them right now and you need to touch them or you’ll die and your heart has never felt so lonely.
Long distance is not easy but one day it will be worth it. One day you’ll live in a cute apartment together where you can wake up next to each other and fuck each other to sleep and a see you later means see you tonight when we get off and it’s time for dinner. Long distance is a choice. It’s a commitment to say, “I love you more than all of the distance between us.”
A Real Hero
This is some John Henry shit right here.
wow
Dashrath Manjhi
There’s a movie made from his story, you guys can check it out.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt3449292/
This post got so much better since the last time I reblogged it omg!!!
oh my god!!!!
That mountain didn’t not know who it was fucking with.
It’s 2:00am and I have finally finished the shawl that I have been working on to wear to Easter breakfast. Which is at 10:00am.
That’s cool. I just thought this was a table wearing underwear.
High Functioning Anxiety is:
‘You’re totally OK, stop being such a baby.’ It’s waking up in the middle of the night sobbing because the worst-case-scenario that just went through your head at high speed seems so real, so vivid, that even when it’s proven to be untrue, it takes hours for your heart to slow down, to feel calm again.
It sounds like, ‘You’re going to get anxious and because you’re going to get anxious, you’re going to mess everything up. You’re a fraud. Just good at faking it. You’re letting everybody down. No one here likes you.’ All the while, it appears perfectly calm.
metacrisisdoctor
DOCTOR WHO | 2.08
But then you’re clever enough to use this whole system against me. If I destroy this planet, I destroy the gravity field. The rocket. The rocket loses protection and falls into the black hole. I’ll have to sacrifice Rose.
